In our twenties, we think that we have everything under control and we know the path we’re heading in, until a hiccup comes. I became a mother before a legal adult so as I am learning about motherhood I am also learning more about life and my spirituality. Being a college mom is hard, but exciting because you will have a story to tell your little one how you accomplished what many say is impossible. Taraji P. Henson had her child in college and moved to L.A. with $700 to pursue her acting career. If she can chase her dreams while being a good mom, why can’t I? In this post I will share 5 things I learned about being a mom.
1. The true meaning of being selfless
I always prayed for the characteristic of being selfless, but now as a wife and mother it comes naturally. What I understand about being selfless is putting your family first and always thinking about the well being of others. While doing this, I have to be careful to not forget about myself because if I’m not at my best health I’m not able to fully do my job and help others. I understand why God made women because we are the best at being selfless and we are able to nurture others. I used to do favors for others and sometimes want something back in return but now I perform good deeds without seeking reward or praise. I am so thankful that I am able to be more selfless and be a servant to others.At times it may get overwhelming, but you just have to vent out to God so you can be reminded of your purpose. I learned that no matter what position you are in and whether you are a mother or not you will always be in a position to serve someone else so even if you are baby free and not in a relationship make sure that you are serving others!
2. Enjoy the season that you are in
I understand what people mean when they say enjoy the season that you are in. When I was single, I constantly thought about being in a relationship and being a wife. While I was single I should have invested more time in learning how to cook more dishes because now, although I am able to cook yummy dishes for my family I am not at that Thanksgiving throwdown level of cooking lol. Sometimes I run out of ideas and Google “what to cook for dinner that is easy and doesn’t take a long time.” LOL, yes, I literally type this in Google sometimes! I am amazed at how a woman can provide breakfast, lunch, and dinner for their family. If you are single and reading this, whatever season you are in, enjoy it and learn something from it because it is for a reason. You may be worried about having a bae but do you know how to cook? What are some characteristics that you need to work on? While you are in your season of no kids/single work on yourself and work on being a great future mom and wife.
3. You can’t buy God’s love
A mother’s love for her child is just a fraction derived from God’s love for man. Just like you can’t buy God’s love, there is nothing that Lola can do to where I won’t love her anymore. I understand God’s love for his children so much more! His love is not for sale and it can’t be bought. If Lola is good or bad I won’t love her any more or less. She is my daughter and I love her with everything in me.
4. The role of women
As I mentioned earlier, I respect women so much more now. I am amazed at how a woman can be a mother, wife, business owner, employee, and still maintain her sanity. I am my grandmother’s prayers and I want to be that mother that my child comes to for comfort and advice. Women are able to multitask and still accomplish everything they need to do for the day. We are definitely needed in this world and God knew exactly what he was doing when he created a woman from a man’s rib. Men and kids need women to be there for them. We are one of the strongest creatures on Earth mentally. I am already praying for my daughter and my grandchildren!
5. Time management
It’s different when you have to manage someone else’s time with yours as well! After having Lola I am on time a lot more now because I don’t want to set an example of being late all the time and I get ready faster. The key to managing time is being very realistic with yourself so you won’t get overwhelmed or not accomplish your “to do” list for the day. Whenever you have time, get it done because you never know when you may have that time again. Currently I get up at 5 A.M. in the morning because it’s when i’m the most productive and how I stay on top of things. If I don’t put in early mornings then things just get overwhelming and out of hand!
Love the season you are in, put God first and never let anyone stop you from achieving your dreams.
College/young mothers, what are some lessons that you have learned? I want to see your comments below!